What is Emotional Intelligence?

Not that long ago, people started to notice that intellect and high grades did not always add up to success in life, people skills do. These people skills are also known as emotional intelligence (EI).

According to Mayer and Salovey who pioneered EI way before the theory became main-stream, EI can be broken down into a four components:

1. perception of emotions
2. awareness/application of emotions
3. understanding of emotions
4. ability to regulate or manage emotions.

Interestingly, studies have shown that younger siblings have the ability to perceive emotions or mental states (referred to as Theory of Mind in psychology).  In other words, though you may not be the first born, if you are second or third and live in the same house as your older brother(s) or sister(s), you will benefit by being able to read other people more than those who do not.

Plus, happiness is often linked to the abilities of EI.  This makes sense to me because people who are able ot understand the motivations of others may have more compassion, empathy, and can therefor connect more profoundly with people.  This connection can build trust which could lead to employment, friendship, and loyalty.

As you walk around in your world today, ask yourself, "am I more aware of what my own feelings are or am I able to take in the feelings of others?"  This thought may be the start of addressing your own EI and how you operate in the world.

Copyright 2013 Heather Corwin