As artistic people, we need to take time- especially in an urban environment- to connect to other people in a meaningful and supportive way. One simple way that we often overlook is resting WITH someone else. The truth is, as animals we sleep more soundly knowing that someone is looking over or out for us. So why not rest in a pack every now and then?
By resting with others, we give our over-stimulated nervous systems a chance to regulate and synch with others at a time when we're all calm. When's the last time you felt truly calm with another? What a cozy feeling! If you're able to, choose a place that makes you all or both feel safe and good like the people in the image above lying on the deck by the water with a fuzzy friend keeping watch. You might choose in front of a warming fire or on an inviting couch.
Even taking 10 minutes a day to rest with someone else can make a calming difference in your life. Give it a try. Isn't it a lovely thought to know that you can bring more joy into your life?
So often the end of the day is here and I think to myself, "Where did the day go?" Well, that's not ideal for me. I like to feel I've accomplished something, if even a small goal for the day. But is the problem a matter of time, priorities, or support from others to meet my needs?
You know I'm a new mom, so having time for me just became more precious than ever. As an introvert, I recharge by spending time alone. Granted, that time will look different now, but it's still time I need to feel good. So I started to think about the time I am actually alone in the day. These times tend to be in the bathroom.
What I'm finding myself doing in my daily morning shower is a ritual. I look out my window at my garden, take restful and cleansing breaths, and list the things I'm thankful for in my life. After those brief moments, I think of a goal I want to set for my day. It might even be as simple as to make a chai tea and sit for 5 minutes alone. I might add something like I want to make my husband and little girl smile at least 5 times today. This is a great beginning to reclaiming time for me. As time goes on and I get better at being a mom, I feel confident more time will come for me.
No matter how full my life is, I need to find the time and energy to rejuvenate. As I recreate my life as the mother in a family AND being the me prior to being a mom, I need to bring with me the elements of my life that are most important.
